Yesterday I woke up somehow disoriented, probably because I was working late on Monday night in my bed (a big No-No!) At first, I thought: TGIF! But then realized it was only Tuesday. Agh.
So, I moved on with my day. Later that afternoon, I had to pick up Alex from school, but got stuck at work; and had to ask a friend to pick him up, and then another friend to stay with him until I get home. What could I do? Oh, the stress of a working mom...
At night, I could not sleep. I was tossing and turning thinking of what kind of life I have - all I have been doing lately is work, taking care of kids, cooking, cleaning, and more work. That made me realize, once again, that it is time to regroup and get my balanced and zBeautiful life back. Yes! That's what I needed to do!
So, first thing in the morning, I made a list of my weekly responsibilities, and then created a plan on how to get them done without getting sucked into a routine.
1. Going to work
2. Taking care of Alex - picking him up from school, helping with dinner (eating is still a struggle), driving to Taekwondo and Social Skills classes, controlling homework, reading a book before bed...
3. Doing house chores - cleaning house and kitchen, grocery shopping and cooking...
4. Spending quality time with family
5. Exercising (yes, it is a necessity).
Hmm, does this list look familiar to you? By the time I go to bed, I am exhausted.
So here's my plan of action: Simplify the general responsibility tasks, not to drive myself crazy to do things perfectly, and substitute a few things with fun things.
1. Day job - can't really change much about it. It is what it is.
2. Taking care of Alex -
- here I can definitely relax the intensity of my control over what he does and let him to take more responsibility for himself. (I should have done a while ago, but got stuck in my own routine.)
- I should budget for a baby-sitter to come every other week or so, and go out for a happy hour with a girlfriend or for a date with my honey.
3. House chores - here I can make quite a lot of changes.
- I should not cook daily, but cook 3 times a week for two days at a time. Simple dishes only.
- Get a take out one day a week.
- Create a week's meal plan and get most of the produce for a week. And then, once more to run to the store to grab more fresh produce as needed, like bread, berries, fruits, and veggies.
- Now, cleaning is not my favorite things to do, so I just won't do it as often as I think I should. There!
- Last but certainly not least: delegate the responsibility to my housemates the chores - alternate the cooking and dishwashing times. That way, I may have to cook no more than once or twice a week.
4. Exercise - experts say we have to exercise 4 times a week. Sorry, here I should not slack off, but I do. I exercise only twice a week. To my defense, I do tend to walk a lot daily, whether it is taking the stairs instead of the elevator, or park my car at the end of the lot...
Now about me time: Do something for me every day, something relaxing and creative! And have a fun weekend!
So here's how my next 10 days should look like:
Thursday: 6AM Pilates/ work/ drive Alex social skills class/ decide on Mother's Day Gift for mom.
Friday: Working late - get sitter for Alex/ 6PM Alex's Taekwondo class/ my Honey is cooking tonight!
Saturday: cleaning home/ stay in, watch a movie.
Sunday: 8AM horseback riding/ lunch by the beach with boys and friends.
Monday: early work start/ grocery shopping/ cooking dinner/ paint my nails.
Tuesday: short work day/ clean house/ shop for mother's day (lots of walking!).
Wednesday: out of town for work ~ all day/ get a sitter for Alex. Pack Vogue!
Thursday: Pilates 6AM/ work/ take Alex's to Social Skills class 5PM/ water the garden.
Friday: short work day/ wrap mom's present/ Alex's Taekwondo Class/ take out/ family & friends time ~ maybe will play wii!
Saturday: Farmer's Market/ Cook dinner/ watch a movie.
Sunday: 8AM horseback Riding/ Family brunch at sister's. Happy Mother's Day!
***Note to self ~ it is okay if any of the things won't get done... or won't get done well ~
xo, Zuma A.